It is 2 am midnight and something made me remember of various incidents when I was hurted by someone. We are born with such a pure heart and in the transition of infancy to adulthood, we end up hurting people and people end up hurting us. A baby is born seeking love and no intention to hurt anyone emotionally and physically and in the course of life some negative emotions tend to stick. I was fortunate enough to get an oppurtunity to apologize people whom I ended up hurting someway sometime. Many times people carry the baggage and it is smart I guess to express that I feel sorry for whatever I ended up doing. But what if someone has hurted us and he/she does not even feel like saying sorry? It is their problem, not mine. But if I do not forgive them, it is like burning own house to kill a rat. The difference is, burning house may kill the rat but burning your emotions would not affect the other person. SO why punish ownself for the tormentor?
It happens with most of us that some incidents are so harse that they stick to us all through our life. It also leads us to behave negatively with other people as if we are trying to take a revenge for our past injuries. We try to heal ourself by taking a revenge. Unknowingly, we punish ourself again for others' faults by loosing the love of someone who truely cares. How far is it justified to seek revenge from ownself? The heart needs some sort of healing and it should not be again at a cost of my happiness. I have discovered forgiving people is the best way to self heal. When I was able to forgive someone who has hurted me, I got inner peace. Revenge may give us temporary relief but the cost is too high to pay for. I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them. The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Till the time I dont forgive, I do not move ahead in life in true sense. I believe in learning from my mistakes, forgive and try to clean my heart. After all, when we were born we just knew about love and affection then why let the bad experience transform your natural self. It is said that bad experience makes you stronger to face worst situation. Is life a war that we need to win? Life needs to be a beautiful fresh flower in which each petal opens with a new day. Keeping hatred would be like keeping thorns within which can hurt not only me but also the people who care for me truely. I may take it positively as an oppurtunity to feel pain and avoid giving the same back to anyone else. Like I was born seeking love and caring, the other person too was born the same way. Who knows, may be I was hurt as a revenge for someone else. So, rather than keeping the chain going, just break it here by forgiving truely. Forgive, clean your heart and open the doors to people who truely love and care. This is the best victory!
Today I was observing some not so happy moments in my life. Thank god, there are very few such moments. I realized that a common thing that happened during those moments was that my thoughts were just so narrow and I was just seeing the very narrow part of my life and due to this the loss(cause of my sadness) seemed larger than my life. We hear about news of kids committing suicide due to board exams. Simply, stress leads to such incidents. For instance, when I had to leave my studies after 10th due to some personal problems, I used to be very sad at times thinking my aimbitions will never be achieved and dreams will never come true. Wasnt I stupid? Life is so great and a mere degree wasnt going to restrict me from acheiving great things. There are many people who have Masters degree but are very upset with what they are doing and what they have done.At the same time, there are great people who are ultra successful in their life and they did never go to college. I am sure if I was able to think a bit broad and see a larger view of life, I would have never been sad about loosing touch with my studies. The good thing that happened to me was my determination made me complete my degree finally which is definitely good to achieve. But, today i know that degree is a paper and a mere paper can not be a road to my success- it has to be something more deep within - my determination and attitude.So, I believe that no small problem can be larger than life. We all are humans and we have feelings which can sense loss. Its unavoidable to not be sad at all. But what we can do is try to broaden our thought horizon and see life with a bigger lense. Then we can see how small the problem is when compared to our life and there are so many beautiful sketches that we can make in the blank canvas of tomorrow and of the coming days to fade this small mark away. The key to success is to get back up each time you fall.
