It is 2 am midnight and something made me remember of various incidents when I was hurted by someone. We are born with such a pure heart and in the transition of infancy to adulthood, we end up hurting people and people end up hurting us. A baby is born seeking love and no intention to hurt anyone emotionally and physically and in the course of life some negative emotions tend to stick. I was fortunate enough to get an oppurtunity to apologize people whom I ended up hurting someway sometime. Many times people carry the baggage and it is smart I guess to express that I feel sorry for whatever I ended up doing. But what if someone has hurted us and he/she does not even feel like saying sorry? It is their problem, not mine. But if I do not forgive them, it is like burning own house to kill a rat. The difference is, burning house may kill the rat but burning your emotions would not affect the other person. SO why punish ownself for the tormentor?
It happens with most of us that some incidents are so harse that they stick to us all through our life. It also leads us to behave negatively with other people as if we are trying to take a revenge for our past injuries. We try to heal ourself by taking a revenge. Unknowingly, we punish ourself again for others' faults by loosing the love of someone who truely cares. How far is it justified to seek revenge from ownself? The heart needs some sort of healing and it should not be again at a cost of my happiness. I have discovered forgiving people is the best way to self heal. When I was able to forgive someone who has hurted me, I got inner peace. Revenge may give us temporary relief but the cost is too high to pay for. I understand and agree with the idea that forgiving others is more about your peace of mind then it is about their feelings. You don't have to make it known to those who have hurt you that you have forgiven them. The issue is learning how to transcend the hurt, how to get to a place in your heart and mind where the hurt is no longer holding you back from fully caring for others and allowing yourself to be cared for by others.
Till the time I dont forgive, I do not move ahead in life in true sense. I believe in learning from my mistakes, forgive and try to clean my heart. After all, when we were born we just knew about love and affection then why let the bad experience transform your natural self. It is said that bad experience makes you stronger to face worst situation. Is life a war that we need to win? Life needs to be a beautiful fresh flower in which each petal opens with a new day. Keeping hatred would be like keeping thorns within which can hurt not only me but also the people who care for me truely. I may take it positively as an oppurtunity to feel pain and avoid giving the same back to anyone else. Like I was born seeking love and caring, the other person too was born the same way. Who knows, may be I was hurt as a revenge for someone else. So, rather than keeping the chain going, just break it here by forgiving truely. Forgive, clean your heart and open the doors to people who truely love and care. This is the best victory!
Tamanna
April 22, 2009 at 1:41 PM
Good views.I too agree that forgiving can make life easy. cheers!